How To Develop An Intimate Relationship With Jesus

Restored To Intimacy With Christ

I want to show that God has more for you in this life than just wholeness. More than just to give you back what was lost. More than to just give you freedom from all the things that have held you back, but His purposes were far greater than that. He wants to have an intimate relationship with you personally.Jesus wants to have an intimate relationship with you!

No restoration is complete unless you are not only restored out of something, but restored to something.

I want to show that God has more for you in this life than just wholeness. More than just to give you back what was lost. More than to just give you freedom from all the things that have held you back, but His purposes were far greater than that. He wants to have an intimate relationship with you personally.

Notice what the prophet Joel says in the verse below.

Joel 2:28
“And afterward, I will pour out my Spirit on all people.
Your sons and daughters will prophesy,
your old men will dream dreams,
your young men will see visions.
29 Even on my servants, both men and women,
I will pour out my Spirit in those days.

I will pour out my spirit and what? There will be prophecies, dreams and visions right?

What is the 1 thing that all these things have in common?

Communication between God and His people!

You see, I do not believe that God was just giving gifts so we could look and sound super spiritual. I think it is much more basic than that!

I believe God was giving gifts to open the channel, the doorway, or in our modern vernacular, the cell towers for communication between Him and us!

God made a path for total intimacy with Him!

The Purpose of the Christian Life Is Intimacy With Christ


Now for many years I thought that the purpose and goal of the Christian life was to do good works and that included the works of Jesus, including power gifts.

I focused hard on getting rid of all my sin, of serving in every way I could, and learning all that the book had to say.

Now all of these things are good. But they are not supposed to be the focus or purpose of our lives.

In fact, if we make any of these things the purpose of our life, we fall into a sort of religious idolatry. We either make our perfection our God, our service our God, or our intellect and knowledge our God.

God wants to be God not these other things.

I found out only after a long time in my own personal wilderness, that although being good is good, what God wants is for us to be His; His beloved, His bride. His most intimate relationship.

Our struggle with intimacy


Now I understand, and especially with us men, that word intimacy makes us uncomfortable. It is touchy feely. It brings with it the connotation of romance and vulnerability.

And your right. It does.

That seems to fly in the face of a awesome and holy God that nobody can touch or understand; An all powerful God that can swallow up sinners with a blink of an eye.

Again your right.

So how can this be that God wants us to be intimate with Him?

Gen. 3:8

Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the LORD God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the LORD God among the trees of the garden. 9 But the LORD God called to the man, “Where are you?” 10 He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.”

Notice God said, where are you?

God was seeking out Adam and Eve to sit down and spend time with them. It was their fear, that caused them to hide.

And notice why!

Because they were naked. It would have been intimate! There would have been nothing hidden! Total transparency!

God started off with man, fellowshipping and communicating with man in total transparency.

It was man who started covering up, started creating distance between himself and God.

And we know this was caused by what?


And so God had to speak in harder and harsher ways over the years as man slowly backed away from intimacy with God.

And the worship of God became more and more formal and more and more structured until it was to such a level of relationship that it resembled more of a prisoner being sentenced by a judge than it did intimacy.

But this was not the heart of God!

God started with and has always cried out for man to come close to Him but sin always stood in the way.

Until the day when everything changed.

John 1:14

The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the One and Only, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth.

Jesus Became The Living Example of God’s Desire For Intimacy With Us


God the Son, Jesus Christ came to eat, breathe, live and touch our world.

He came to walk right beside us.

He came and lived right with us! He slept with us, laughed with us, and even showered with us!  Whatever the case may be. You get my drift.

Those are things that are transparent and intimate.

He walked in our midst and became the living example of not only how God wants to be intimate with us, but how we can be intimate with the Father.

He gave us hands on instruction!

I want to highlight just a few examples of how Jesus modeled how to be intimate with the Father.

Prayer is a form of intimacy with God


Prayer is just talking with God. He went out to pray alone.

Matthew 14:23

After he had dismissed them, he went up on a mountainside by himself to pray. When evening came, he was there alone,


Mark 1:35

Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.


Luke 5:16

But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.

Jesus spent time communicating with the Father. Many of us think that prayer is some type of ritualistic thing that we do and that there is certain formulas or methods we have to use in order to pray.

Not so!

It is communication between us and God, and also many times between God and us. It is 2 way communication. And when you understand that, then it is not a problem anymore to pray an hour, or two or even four.

I spent many years not turning on the radio in my truck but instead turning to the spiritual frequency of the Holy Spirit and doing nothing but talking and listening to God. Not even putting on praise music, but just talking and listening to God; Inviting His presence to come to where I was and hang out with me.

Saying what the Father says is a form of intimacy


John 12:49-50

For I did not speak of my own accord, but the Father who sent me commanded me what to say and how to say it. 50 I know that his command leads to eternal life. So whatever I say is just what the Father has told me to say.”

This is very important because most of us think or have been taught that Jesus did the things He did because He was God and knew the outcome. That in some way He was operating out of His Divinity.

But according to this scripture and others He was following the lead of God the Father, and not acting out of his own volition.

Jesus being both fully God and fully man modeled both sides of the intimacy relationship.

He modeled how God loves us and wants to be with us, and he modeled how a man can become intimate with God.

As believers we are called to a place of intimacy with God. In fact it was not just to save your backsides from Hell that Jesus died, but it was to establish a way for God to be intimate with us and for us to be intimate with God.

Intimacy was the goal of God!

And what was that doorway, that avenue, that cell tower so to say, that God provided so that we could be intimate?

It is Through the Holy Spirit that We Become Intimate with Christ


John 14:15

“If you love me, you will obey what I command. 16 And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Counselor to be with you forever— 17 the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will be[c] in you. 18 I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you. 19 Before long, the world will not see me anymore, but you will see me. Because I live, you also will live. 20 On that day you will realize that I am in my Father, and you are in me, and I am in you. 21 Whoever has my commands and obeys them, he is the one who loves me. He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love him and show myself to him.”

If you are uncomfortable or resistant or scared of this precious 3rd person of the Godhead, then you have some serious time ahead of you on your knees.

I am sorry that this method is not of your choosing or liking.

It was not my idea, it was God’s. He chose the method and relationship we must nurture and establish.

But I am confident of this.

If you will set out in your heart that you want to be as intimate as humanly possible with God, you will get to the point that you will love the way and method He has chosen.

He really does know best.

Won’t you start out today?

Won’t you make today the first day of your new focus and goal in your Christian life?

Will you choose intimacy?


Written by Duke Taber

Pastor Duke Taber is the owner of Taber's Truths Christian Websites LLC. He writes or aggregates or compiles many of the articles on Viral Believer.

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